When we harbour anger, resentment consciously or subconsciously it blocks our ability to listen. Whether the anger is a quiet grinding or our teeth, passive aggressive or seething rage, the mind reacts with a hidden agenda which you may not be conscious of. It narrows our perspective, emotional focus and we miss the opportunity presented to us. We have effectively decided not to listen. When we get angry we polarize the world, all is black and white, right and wrong, good and bad. To reach this deep anger we need to clear the blocks in the body and mind to allow everything which is in the present moment and the other person’s world into our own.
Weakness in listening:
The normal condition of our mind, environment and culture is not to fully listen. When someone is talking to you listen to 6% of the total conversation.
You listen to the cues not the words.
You take certain important cues that concern you emotionally or mentally and fill in the blanks.
You only become alert at these times, you are not worried about the complete conversation.
50% of the time you pretend you are hearing and listening.
You are only interested in the total conversation that you started out to project to the other person.
If you cannot accept the above you are not listening.
Deep listening involves:
Listening with ears, mind and heart.
Remaining fully present, conscious and alert.
Being deeply relaxed and centred. Understanding your own agenda before communicating. THIS TAKES LOTS OF PRACTICE.
The Benefits of Deep Listening Sunni – ai
What does this mean? Each word creates our world, each word we hear informs and connects us to this world. Deep listening is like a bats sonar, it helps us to sense the shape and momentum of the present moment. Deep listening allows us to be one step ahead of the moment. It gives us Tattva buddhi, the universal knowledge. If we cultivate this tool of deep listening, we creates a deep respect in the other person which establishes a COMMON NOTION. Step 3 of our conscious communication .
When you cannot hear yourself (your mental and outer voice) or listen to the other person there will not be mutual understanding and that is why relationships go wrong in life.
Questions to answer?
How does it feel when you are not heard? How did it colour your response?
Give an example when YOU did not listen? Did this lead to a misunderstanding? How did this lack of listening affect your relationship with the other person?
Try this week to listen to a person using all your senses. How much can you read about the other person just by listening and uses your senses?
Join my classes this week as we explore this topic, through kundalini kriya, meditation,becoming deeply present and conscious of mind. For the timetable look at sanasuma’s facebook page or website.