Recognise the Other Person is YOU – Detox from Sympathy

recognise the other is you


Humans are the only animals who enjoy sympathy. As a society we need to detox from sympathy as it feeds our victim consciousness (which we have from time to time) or gives our egos feelings of superiority.

First we need to differentiate between empathy and sympathy.

Sympathy comes about from, and is developed through, suffering. We can sympathize with someone because we have experienced similar situations and can understand degrees of intensity. While we may never have been homeless we can sympathize, because we have been lonely, lost, poor or otherwise in a difficult situation and we can multiply that experience in our mind to have some approximation of what homelessness might be like.

Sympathy is also situation dependent. We may have sympathy for a homeless single mother who is trying to feed her child, but no sympathy for a homeless drunk who is trying to feed an alcohol addiction. Empathy is a deeper state of connection with other living beings.

First of all Empathy is not limited by circumstance. Empathy doesn’t judge the circumstance of a homeless drunk, empathy simply and directly shares in the pain of hopelessness, desperation and regret. It is also possible to have empathy without sympathy, feeling the pain while simultaneously admitting the person’s own responsibility in creating or alleviating that pain.

Empathy is a powerful development of our ability to take the roll of other. It is marked by the graduation from a mental calculation of the circumstance to a direct recognition of the internal state of another being. This awareness throws out the particular circumstance and is able to actually FEEL that person’s pain or joy/sadness/love/peace etc. . . .

How is this possible?

Well as our consciousness expands to include deeper truths about the fundamental nature of our being, our personal borders begin to literally expand to include other people.

Almost everyone does this with members of their own family. We can feel the tension in the air when a loved one is angry.  As we consciously expand our state of awareness we become empathetic to a wider circle of people, animals, environments, etc.


Being open to the interior state of nearly every being you come across is a challenging and confusing state of affairs.  But the trick is to keep your own aura or electromagnetic frequency high, so you can tune into that person or circumstance and then up lift the situation with your energy. That does not mean you will solve all the problems of that person or the world, but give them a boost, see a little light at the end of the tunnel, see that they can be their own healer, miracle etc. In the Aquarian age this is called to see the other as you.

This kind of empathy, loving understanding doesn’t ignore pain or suffering, nor does it dismiss it in any way. In fact it invites you to feel all feelings without avoidance and experience the pain of others which softens and enlargers your heart to be even more loving. This breaking of our heart is a good think as it allows greater compassion, allows us to be real with people as we understand through this compassionate love. The Love that flows through you at the heart centre allows you to increase your electromagnetic field, not as a protection but as an opening to all of life.

In short it is that the way out is the way through. Keep feeling and caring. Keep diving deeper and responding with Genuine Love to more and more of what you encounter each day, don’t act necessarily, breath and feel.   As your outward flow of Love becomes habitual and your electromagnetic fields becomes stronger, the feeling of being tossed about in the emotional landscape of others will subside. You will find yourself anchored in the limitless and effortless flow of Love. You may not have noticed this, but meditate on it a bit and you will find that it is true: There is no difference between the feeling of Love flowing out from us, and Love flowing in towards us.

We make up stories about fairness and keep score of the number of times a type of situation has occurred, and we tell ourselves that we are owed an influx of love from somewhere outside of ourselves.

But the truth is that ultimately there is no other for love to come from and no other for it to go to. The actual feeling, the life affirming grace of Love’s movement within us, which we so desperately scramble for, is no different moving ‘in’ or ‘out’. We can feel the movement of Love within us ALWAYS, by simply allowing it to flow through us endlessly into the world.

  • Complete Mantra: For the meditation of Compassion.

Rakhay rakhanhaar aap ubaariun (cross hands over heart)

Gur kee pairee paa-eh kaaj savaariun (hands down on your knees)

Hoaa aap dayaal manho na visaariun (cross hands over heart)

Saadh janaa kai sung bhavjal taariun (hands down on your knees)

Saakat nindak dusht khin maa-eh bidaariun (cross hands over heart)

Tis saahib kee tayk naanak manai maa-eh (hands down on your knees)

Jis simrat sukh ho-eh saglay dookh jaa-eh (cross hands over heart) repeat

Jis simrat sukh ho-eh saglay dookh jaa-eh (cross hands over heart) takes hands down briefly before starting again from the top.

This week’s classes:

Mon 28 Sept 6-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Pl, Col 7

Tues 29 Sept 8.30 -9.30am Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Rd,

Tues 29 Sept  6-7pm Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 30 Sept 4.45- 7am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 30 Sept 3-3.45pm Kids Yoga @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 30 Sept 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Sat 3 Oct       9.30-10.30am Hatha General @The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Sat 3 Oct       5-7.30am Sadhana @The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road (FREE)

Sun 4 Oct      10-11am   Hatha General @The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road


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