What are our life’s recurring themes and why are they so important to understand? By developing an understanding of these patterns we also become aware of the unchanged but active patterns in our subconscious brain from which we draw all our perceptions, tastes, likes, dislikes and meaning from. For example; if when I was young I felt that when I took care of my baby sibling I got praised and shown love, then this themes may continue into my adult life. I may seek relationships where I am the care giver, I am always putting other peoples needs before my own in an atempt to be loved and accepted.
We need to be able to recognise these themes in order to decide if:
We want to keep them?
We want to change them?
Even if we want to elimate them this may not be possible but we may be able to reframe our story or redirect our thinking therefore transforming the theme into something positive.
The Negative Discerning Mind
How do we identify these Themes?
We can look at critical periods of our life especially the formative years between 1-7yrs and 7-11yrs and write randonly our memories and experiences. We can choose each of our parents and siblings the first day at school and write bullet points about our memories during that time.
Once we have done this we can then look at what was our coping strategy during these significant experiences.
- How well did you handle that experience?
- Did you go into autopilot mode becoming busy with the mechanics of living so you do not really feel and engage with the reality of a situtaion. Denial?
- Do you care for everyone else so you can ignore your own needs?
- Do you go into blame mode, everything is happening too me. Feeling isolated and out of control?
- Do you become frozen, lingering in a twilight zone, clinging to an idealised past, than dealing with the present situation?
- Do you allow yourself to experience your feelings and neutrally let things go as they pass, not being attached and living lightly?
- How would you improve my approach to this challenge now in hindsight?
The Neutral and Intuitive Mind
Once we have been through the process we need to pause and go inward to seek another way of doing things, seeing the world and living which suites our enviroment and present needs. This creation of a neutral headspace allows us to let go of the minds old subconscious and unconscious understandings created in childhood under the light of conscious awareness. We can let go of our grasping, doubting, worries and instead be present and let our intuitive and inner capacity rise up and give us answers.
The Postive and Creative Mind
The final step is once we have identified these Themes, looked at them neutrality it is time to let the innate energy of the postive mind and change begin. In reality change in the way we view the world maybe subtle. You may have to recognise instead of seeking to know. Embrace instead of grab. In the act of knowing that you are both known and unknown wrapped up in one body, mind and soul.
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