When I was younger I felt a little superior as I thought I was such a happy and positive person and got upset when someone said anything negative or critical.
I have now come to understand what the negative mind is and how it works. We all have 3 functional minds the negative mind being the first one and the strongest. It is the strongest because it is the protective mind, your alarm system. Its value is that it warns you of danger or if you will be at a disadvantage. If the negative mind had not been strong in ancient times your genetic line would not have survived to produce YOU. But when we let our negative mind get too strong it can make our life a living hell. We see danger everywhere instead of opportunity or choice.
The second functional mind is the positive mind. It is expansive and sees the gain or advantage in any situation. The third mind, the neutral mind is not scared by the negative mind or fooled by the wishful thinking of the positive mind. It is conscious and wise giving you the solution that you can trust, that has your best interests at heart.
So we should be aware of what the negative mind says, but use the other 2 minds to assess it, in order to decide if the treat is real or perceived.
Last week I was at Borderlands in Kitual Gala and went river cannoning, which entails climbing, sliding and jumping down a river. Many times my negative mind became so strong, I could feel my heartbeat, fear made everything around me come into intense focus. I could see light glinting off the beautiful butterfly, the sound of the river pounding the rocks, the intense green of the trees around me. But I let my other minds tell me that the risk of injury was very small, that jumping from 15ft into a beautiful pool was fun and the risk was not real only perceived.
Now we have understood our own negative thought process, lets deal with external negativity. It is easy to feel that other people are ruining your mood because of their thoughts, words and actions. Other people can put your plans down, tell you, you can never achieve your dreams, or just moan or complain. This can dissolve your good mood.
1.Always Ask Why do I react to this?
But is it our reaction to that person or situation that really kills the good mood. It is much easier to go off and live on your own in a cave and practice a yogic lifestyle and philosophy, but if you want to live in this practical world and be a yogi you have to deal with all the normal challenges and work on yourself internally to transform reactions to other people’s negativity. Ask yourself the questions, “What is it in me that reacts to someone else’s negative words, actions?” Is it a reflection of some subconscious fears, negativity, etc. that you have not acknowledged and dealt with yet? Instead of blaming the other it is much more productive to look within.
As yogis we do not learn yoga to feel superior to others, above all of these human emotions, instead we allow it to makes us REAL, approachable, fearless to discover all our shadows and shine our conscious awareness on them. This all sounds easy to do but it takes patience, time and practice.
3. Work on your Aura
3 mins of breath of fire per day will help increase the strength and power of your electromagnetic field or aura. Your aura protects you from negativity, internally within yourself and externally. The stronger the aura the less you feel the effect of outside lower energy frequencies, whether it be people or places. There are many other practices to increase your aura, the cold shower ishnaan, wearing white or a light colour made of natural material, yoga especially for the electromagnetic field.
4. Lead by Example
People who practice yoga know the magic it creates in our lives. If yoga has allowed you to have a more positive outlook on life, share that with the negative people in your life. Do not preach, but bring in inspirational stories into your conversation. When someone wants to gossip, say plainly that I do not feel comfortable talking about that person. Explain to them how you’ve been able to see the good in things and how this has made all things in life more enjoyable. By giving them tools to change rather than isolating or attacking them, you are helping them to change on their own.
Mon 17 October 6.15-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7
Tues 18 October 6-7pm Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5
Wed 19 October 4.45- 7am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE CLASS)
Wed 19 October 3-3.45pm Radiant Kids Class@ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5
Wed 19 October 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road Col 5