Stop Defending and deal with the Negative Mind – Kundalini Yoga

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It takes a lot of courage to face reality. When our negative, protective mind is strong it would rather make up stories, create imaged enemies than actually allow us to listen to something which feels like an attack on the self. We are not neutral about ourselves we dimiss our subconscious, we do not believe the outside world is effected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve the defensive self. How do we know when we are defensive, or blaming someone else for negativity coming from ourselves. Well here are a few points to be conscious of:

  • When you begin defending because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  • We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.
  • We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not happy.

The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.neg

It takes a lot of courage to face reality. When our negative, protective mind is strong it would rather make up stories, create imaged enemies than actually allow us to listen to something which feels like an attack on the self. We are not neutral about ourselves we dismiss our subconscious, we do not believe the outside world is effected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve the defensive self. How do we know when we are defensive, or blaming someone else for negativity coming from ourselves. Well here are a few points to be conscious of:

  • When you begin defending because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  • We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.
  • We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not happy.

The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.

Practical Solutions

Whenever I get critised, I have to try and stay very present, breathe deeply, feel the pain or hurt but not let my mind dismiss or defend against what I am hearing. I then later on recheck my reaction to see how defensive or reactive I was in that situation.

Obviously like last week working on a deep meditation practice to strengthen the neutral mind really helps. But we need to be very conscious when we are with people who trigger us. Being conscious does not mean we accept other people’s criticism as fact; we just need to be aware of our reactions to criticism, our body language, feelings, breath, etc. This will allow us to see the full picture without just dismissing what someone says because it hurts our ego. We need to use the neutral mind to access what is fact and fiction and from this point move forward to either learn from past mistakes or dismiss the criticism. Because if we react to it there must be energy there we need to examine. Try always to elevate your vibration, for me it is mantra chanting, to you it may be breathing, moving, singing, etc. Elevate yourself to be less in the animal alert state of the negative mind to view the situation from the heart centred neutral mind. Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk www.3ho.org

This week’s classes:

Mon 19 Feb 6.15-7.30pm    Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 20 Feb 9.45-10.45am Kundalini Yoga @ Om Shambala, 143 Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 20 Feb 3.30-4.30pm Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickell Rd, Col 8

Tues 20 Feb 6-7.15pm       Kundalini Yoga Class with Shauangh@ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 21 Feb 5.00- 7.30am   Sadhana @ @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 21 Feb 3.30-4.15am    Kids Yoga Class @ The Om Space, Colombo 5

Wed 21 Feb 6.45-8pm         Kundalini Yoga@ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 22 Feb 11 – 1pm       Special Needs Kids and Teachers Class@ Reach Beyond

Thurs 22 Feb 3-4pm            Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Sat   24 Feb 6-7.30pm         Gong Bath @ Sri Yoga Shala, Thalpe, Galle.

Sun 25 Feb 5am onwards   Kundalini Yoga Fest – All day festival

 

 

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