Reactive or Hidden Self – Kundalini yoga 6.15pm Mon 30 July 2018

Reactive Personality ie Hidden Self

Over the last few weeks we have been looking at how we can be truly happy, to feel good about ourselves, be able to cope with difficult feelings and circumstances. But the biggest obstacle to all of this is what Yogi Bhajan named as the Reactive personality or Hidden self.

Firstly we need to understand that we originate from the soul which does not include any polarity, just oneness, which reflects true self. We incarnate into a Universe of polarities, where our persona and shadow self exist. Persona is the part of our personality which we project into the world, how we would like to be seen. The Shadow is the part of the personality which we keep hidden. For example if you are a very kind, generous person there is within you a selfish and mean side. In order not to be at odds with your Shadow you need to acknowledge both sides of the persona but choose to be kind and generous to yourself and others. Understanding that sometimes you need to put yourself first and look after your financial needs. Then there is no conflict between the persona and the shadow.

Within the Shadow lies the Hidden or reactive self. This part of us is created through experiences we had usually in the first 7 years of our life. Just like the little angle baby becomes a monster during the terrible twos, this reactive self does not die with childhood. It stays in the subconscious realm as we get older, holding on to its hidden agenda, undermining our ability to appreciate life, be happy and fulfilled. The reactive self is activated when we do not get what we want. In these circumstances we become angry but it is not just feelings of anger but the reactive mind gets involved, saying, why am I angry, I feel bad about being angry, etc. Adding layer upon layer to this initial feeling from the hidden self.

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How to recognise the Reactive or Hidden Self ?

  1. Feelings of regret about the past, past mistakes, etc.
  2. When you begin defending yourself because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  3. We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not content.
  4. The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.
  5. Feeling sorry for ourselves, life is unfair, living in our stories.
  6. . Because we are not neutral about ourselves we dismiss the hidden self and its agendas and do not believe the outside world is affected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align with the hidden self. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve our hidden agenda. We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.   If our habit is to simple react, or to react and deny we reacted we divide and fight ourselves. It is just like trying to see ourselves in a shattered mirror.

These are just some of the signs of the Reactive personality. When they occur the hidden personality is dominating our normal personality

So how do we deal with it?

Shiv Charan our teacher is very clear about this, he says when you observe the Hidden self, you have got to be very very firm.

  1. There is nothing to heal.
  2. Do not mentally react to it or start to analysis it or discuss it.
  3. Hit it with a Mantra. Mantra is like a tread, a diver’s life line, keep chanting, keep the rhythm and you will get through the waves of it until you come out on the other side.
  4. Have a tool box you can use when the Reactive Self arises, Inhale 4 exhale 1.
  5. For most people we will never be able to get rid of the hidden self reactive personality, only put it to sleep.

Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk  www.3ho.org

Mon 30 July 6.15-7.30pm       Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 31 July 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga@ Om Shambala, Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 31 July 3.30-4.30pm       Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Tues 31 July 6-7.15pm           Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 1 Aug 5.00- 7.30am     Sadhana @ 145/5 Fife Rd, Colombo 5 (FREE CLASS)

Wed 1 Aug 6.45-8pm      Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 2 Aug 11-1pm     Special Needs Kids and Teachers @ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Fri    3 Aug 5.45-7pm       Youvolution Gong Bath – Jungle Beach Ahungalla

 

 

 

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Emotional Intelligence – Kundalini Yoga 6.45pmWed 25 July @ 9 Greenlands Lane

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Our happiness will not be complete until we understand our emotions and what they are trying to tell us. We feel that emotions drain us and if we could live without negative emotions, we would be happier.

GuruMeher has made a study of our emotions, he calls them the Senses of the Soul. He says “We do two things wrong with emotions we either let them take over us or we repress them.”   Students and yoga teachers alike have been asking me about how to deal with difficult emotions and I feel that especially the spiritual community tries to bypass difficult emotions. In fact I had a friend who did 3 to 4 kriyas and meditations per day to try and kriya her way out of feelings dark emotions. You may feel better initially but these emotions only get stronger if denied or vilified.

GuruMeher talks about emotions being the immune system of our mental health, therefore when we have an emotion use the clarity of our mind to try and understand what that emotion is trying to tell us.

Practical Solutions

So how do we do this? If an emotion is bothering you bring it into your consciousness awareness. Especially when you meditate. So next time you meditate bring in the emotion and listen to it what is it trying to tell you. Your emotions do not talk like your brain.   Start observing yourself not just your thoughts but listen with your self sensory system to feel the answer.

If you are in a meditative or neutral mind state when you bring up a difficult emotion your pre frontal cortex lights up and you feel clear, in normal situations your limbic system takes over and you go cloudy and unconscious. For example, feel the shame and after a while the shame will not feel so bad, as long as you are not feeding it with your thoughts. You need to feel this on a somatic (physical)level. Ask yourself, what do I need to do to feel better? This is the future of therapy ,it is self therapy. You will find yourself through it. It is a simple formula, you know what you are feeling and know what to do to feel better.

For example fear can eventually lead you to peace. If you would like to know more read GuruMeher Singh’s book called, Senses of the Soul.

Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk  www.3ho.org

Mon 23 July 6.15-7.30pm    Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 24 July 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga @ Om Shambala

Tues 24 July 3.30-4.30pm       Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Tues 24 July 6-7.15pm           Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 25 July 5.00- 7.30am     Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 25 July 6.45-8pm           Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 26 July 11-1pm   Special Needs Kids and Teachers @ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Fri     27 July 6-7.30pm       Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon Gong Bath @ Sri Yoga Shala, Thalpe, Galle

Fri   27 July 6.15-7.45pm Lunar Eclipse & Full Moon Gong Bath Shaunagh @ Om Shambala, Fife Rd Col 5

Develop Real Self Esteem – Kundalini Yoga 6.45pm Wed 18 July @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5.

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Last week we discussed how happiness can be a learnt behaviour but how about the habits we need to unlearn, like low self esteem. I think most people can complain of having some sort of low self esteem, either about their weight, how they look, if they are too white or too dark, not witty or clever the list is endless. Whenever you use your will power to try and counter these perceived faults you end up in an endless loop from false confidence to self-loathing and then back again.

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The real way to grow our self esteem is to connect ourselves to our inner or true self. The mind is at the root of most of our problems, especially low self-esteem. Whenever you attempt to move forward in your life, it is the mind that sends the deluge of critical, judgmental and self-hating thoughts. You are not your mind. Therefore daily meditation is now an essential tool to develop a real relationship with your mind.   Meditation gives you a chance to witness your mind and realise it just pulls you in all directions. Your job in your daily life is to become a witness to those thoughts and be aware not to react to the thoughts until you are clear of what is real. To do this you need a reality check, you put the information you are receiving through your 3 minds. Then neutrally take the thought, advice, etc and put it through your own receiver.   Truth is a frequency of energy that will resound with your Self or not. Your Mind is not your inner authority. Test this out when you listen to people. Do you feel YES and lit up or NO that feels a bit off—as if you are lopsided? Sometimes feelings of low self esteem are trying to tell us something. We are not truly aligned with ourselves today, maybe not recognising our self care needs?

We have a self concept which is created by our mind. Most people want to be or look like someone they are not. If we just could accept the truth of who we are which includes all our shadows we would not have an issue with self esteem. But that means work. Work to work out what it really feels like to be you. Find out what makes your heart sing, what uplifts your spirit, what your real values are separate from your families, society, etc.   If this was your last week, what would you be doing now?

Yogi Bhajan says that self esteem also has a physical and spiritual aspect. “In other words, if the balance between the tattvas and the chakras is established, then there shall be no earthquake because the personality will be harmonious. It shall have ample reserve through the squares of the being because energy will flow through the body along the proper channels. Also extra energy may be stored in the energy squares of the body for use in times of stress; to write off the pain of childhood; to overcome negative influences, negative thoughts, and negative company; to cope successfully with the pain of adulthood, the fear of old age, and the pressures of family; and to withstand the projective animosity of social, economic, and personal environments”.

So let’s work on balancing our tattva’s and chakras and check on our thoughts to start connecting with our real sense of self which will lead ultimately to real self esteem.  The tattvas are where we can transform our 5 passions to serve our infinite self not our finite needs.

Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk  www.3ho.org

Mon 16 July 6.15-7.30pm       Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 17 July 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga@Om Shambala, Fife Rd, Col5

Tues 17 July 3.30-4.30pm       Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Tues 17 July 6-7.15pm           Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 18 July 5.00- 7.30am     Sadhana @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 18 July 6.45-8pm           Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 19 July 11-1pm             Special Needs Kids and Teachers @ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Cultivate Happiness – Kundalini Yoga 6.15pm Mon 9 July Prana Lounge

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Cultivate Happiness

Yogi Bhanjan tells us that our birthright is to be healthy, happy and holy. But what would it take to make you happy? If you had all the money in the world, would just material wealth make you truly happy? Most probably not, because happiness is not a thing it is state of being. To make your life happier it takes conscious effort and cultivation of new habits and patterns.

A Yale psychologist Laurie Santos created a course (that nearly 25% of all Yale undergraduates signed up for in 2018) which concluded that if we could spend month learning the technology of happiness we would be happier. It is a bit like learning to play the violin or a new language, you need to commit and practice.

Santos calls it rewirement, something we talk about a lot in Kundalini the ability to create neuroplasticity in the brain to retrain our thinking, i.e. qualify our thoughts so they serve you not the neurotic monkey mind. The teachings also tell us that happiness is not just an emotional state, but has a physical and spiritual component.

On a physical level we can bring greater happiness into our lives if we start connecting to our navel point or Nabhi. This point is 2-3 inches below our belly button, but lies greatly unused by the modern human being. It is the point where our nerve endings and meridian points come together to connect us to the world. By creating a strong and centred nabhi we can control our health and energy.   Yogi Bhajan says:

“Whatever you hear, whatever you see, and whatever you say is controlled by this navel point. If the navel point pulse is felt a little above the navel point, it means diarrhea. If it is a little below, constipation. If it is on the left side, gas. If it is on the right, burp. And all it has to be off is one millimeter. If the navel point is one millimeter off, your entire digestive system, your feelings–you are not you.” When you do not feel you, you do not feel happy.

Spiritually to feel happy we need connection. Connection to nature, loved ones and our spiritual family. My experience last week of spending 6 days with my spiritual community on retreat left me feeling uplifted inspired and deeply connected which in turn made me very happy and content. Serving, helping, giving and general acts of kindness make us feel happy. This is because we are serving the spirit in the other which we recognise has the same needs as ourselves.

Practical Solutions

In the 2012 New Zealand study researchers found that the following behaviour enhanced enjoyment: This list is just a start.

  1. Talking to another person about feeling good and lucky
  2. Laughing and telling yourself how proud you are of yourself
  3. Focusing in on the moment
  4. Physical – more sleep, exercise and deep relaxation
  5. Emotional: Making a list of all the things you feel grateful for as well as savouring special moments of your day. A cup of tea, the breeze on your skin, your first breath in the morning.
  6. Radom acts of kindness.
  7. Take a one month free course on happiness https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being

Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk www.3ho.org

Mon 9 July 6.15-7.30pm       Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 10 July 9.45-10.45am     Kundalini Yoga@ Om Shambala, Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 10 July 3.30-4.30pm       Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Tues 10 July 6-7.15pm            Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Wed 11 July 5.00- 7.30am     Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 11 July 6.45-8pm           Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 12 July 11-1pm   Special Needs Kids and Teachers @ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Thurs 12 July 6-7.30pm         New Moon Gong Bath@ Prana Lounge, Col 7

2018 Conscious Communication Level 2 – The Retreat

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Back of Beyond Kahandamodara is a beautiful remote destination on the south coast of Sri Lanka, with deserted beaches and an African savannah feel of wild open spaces. From the yoga shala, carefully constructed using lots of recycled materials, you can hear the roar of the ocean and bird song.

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The 28 of us stayed in spacious comfortable rooms, with Ayurvedic treatments which relaxed us at night. Back of Beyond allows you to feel a million miles away from the stresses and strains of the world and #Retreat into an inner healing space.

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About the Retreat

The Retreat was about conscious communication not only with others but most importantly with ourselves. The tone of the Retreat was to make every minute meaningful and conscious, right from what we said to the deep listening and inner silence that is found in nature’s symphony. So we could hear the whisper of our soul.

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Our teacher Shiv Charan Singh, was an amazing channel for the teachings, He transmitted the wisdom of the course with seamless ease. We learnt, we laughed, we felt and we left lighter, with a determination to keep being conscious especially in our communication to create a more harmonious tomorrow.

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About the Food

The food at Kahandamodara was a highlight, with fresh fruit salads, amazing local buffalo curd and traditional Sri Lankan breakfasts. Every morning we got a new fresh juice like sour sop and king coconut water. Lunch was traditional rice and curry with  locally grown veggies. Herbal teas were served at break with a local sweet like coconut jaggary pancakes.  All meals were glutton free, sugar free and veggie. Instead kitual honey and millet flour or rice flour were used.

Join us on our next adventure 22nd September 2018 for Level 1 Teacher Training.

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