Stop Defending and deal with the Negative Mind – Kundalini Yoga

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It takes a lot of courage to face reality. When our negative, protective mind is strong it would rather make up stories, create imaged enemies than actually allow us to listen to something which feels like an attack on the self. We are not neutral about ourselves we dimiss our subconscious, we do not believe the outside world is effected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve the defensive self. How do we know when we are defensive, or blaming someone else for negativity coming from ourselves. Well here are a few points to be conscious of:

  • When you begin defending because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  • We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.
  • We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not happy.

The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.neg

It takes a lot of courage to face reality. When our negative, protective mind is strong it would rather make up stories, create imaged enemies than actually allow us to listen to something which feels like an attack on the self. We are not neutral about ourselves we dismiss our subconscious, we do not believe the outside world is effected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve the defensive self. How do we know when we are defensive, or blaming someone else for negativity coming from ourselves. Well here are a few points to be conscious of:

  • When you begin defending because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  • We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.
  • We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not happy.

The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.

Practical Solutions

Whenever I get critised, I have to try and stay very present, breathe deeply, feel the pain or hurt but not let my mind dismiss or defend against what I am hearing. I then later on recheck my reaction to see how defensive or reactive I was in that situation.

Obviously like last week working on a deep meditation practice to strengthen the neutral mind really helps. But we need to be very conscious when we are with people who trigger us. Being conscious does not mean we accept other people’s criticism as fact; we just need to be aware of our reactions to criticism, our body language, feelings, breath, etc. This will allow us to see the full picture without just dismissing what someone says because it hurts our ego. We need to use the neutral mind to access what is fact and fiction and from this point move forward to either learn from past mistakes or dismiss the criticism. Because if we react to it there must be energy there we need to examine. Try always to elevate your vibration, for me it is mantra chanting, to you it may be breathing, moving, singing, etc. Elevate yourself to be less in the animal alert state of the negative mind to view the situation from the heart centred neutral mind. Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk www.3ho.org

This week’s classes:

Mon 19 Feb 6.15-7.30pm    Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 20 Feb 9.45-10.45am Kundalini Yoga @ Om Shambala, 143 Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 20 Feb 3.30-4.30pm Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickell Rd, Col 8

Tues 20 Feb 6-7.15pm       Kundalini Yoga Class with Shauangh@ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 21 Feb 5.00- 7.30am   Sadhana @ @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 21 Feb 3.30-4.15am    Kids Yoga Class @ The Om Space, Colombo 5

Wed 21 Feb 6.45-8pm         Kundalini Yoga@ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 22 Feb 11 – 1pm       Special Needs Kids and Teachers Class@ Reach Beyond

Thurs 22 Feb 3-4pm            Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Sat   24 Feb 6-7.30pm         Gong Bath @ Sri Yoga Shala, Thalpe, Galle.

Sun 25 Feb 5am onwards   Kundalini Yoga Fest – All day festival

 

 

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Joy- Give yourself to Permission – Kundalini, Gong and Meditation Classes

Melissa

My intention this week had been to write about the emotion of shame, but events of the last few days completely changed my focus.

Last week at the end of a very intensive weekend of Kundalini Level 1 Teacher Training, I was asked by my dear friend and colleague Annoushka to give myself a break and come away with her to attend a yoga retreat for 2 days at Ulpotha. Not only is Ulpotha one of my favourite places in the world but also one of my favourite teachers Melissa Smith was teaching.

I learnt so much, by giving myself time out, permission to dive into the depth of myself and feel joy. I first had to first process guilt and worry about cancelling a class, but all these emotions melted away as I smelt and heard the rain hitting the dry red earth, listened to the birds at dusk, heard the rustle of the wind in the trees as it picks up tempo before a storm. The sounds of the frogs and insects in our tropical paradise of Sri lanka. The feeling of water on my skin, weirdly hot and cold in the lake in Ulpotha. To the sound of my heart and breath during asana, meditation and relaxation.

All these things reminded me that I was not here on earth just to survive. I was also divinity, a co-creator of my reality. Survival was the old way, governed by our worries and intellect, linked with our fear of existence. With it comes judgment, blame, shame and guilt. When we separate from our innate nature of love and joy, our psyche splits into the polarity of good/bad, right/wrong, a two-dimensional world where life is a burden, a struggle. When we give ourselves permission to work with our heart brain, at a higher mental and physical frequency and do everything in the name of joy, even the boring or difficult things become effortless, effort. We act/do or work towards what we want, use the pause between the effort and surrender to be fully present to the reality of what IS. Then you can surrender yourself to the flow of life and receive the outcome with ease. Fulfillment, contentment and joy reside in the heart brain. Give up your worry of survival, do something inspiring that puts joy in your heart every day, even if it is just a beautiful affirmation, poem, deep breath, kiss, singing, chanting, the feel of the air on your skin, anything that connects you with the joy that always resides in your heart. This will allow you to access the deep well that resides in all of us, that will allow you to relax, trust and know all your dreams will be fulfilled.

With thanks to everyone in my life, to all the lessons I learn daily and the opportunity to experience existence.

Sat nam Fi x sanasumainsrilanka.wordpress.com read our weekly blogs and brain candy updates raymond.fiona@gmail.com www.sanasuma.co.uk 0778011984.

Tues 14 Mar  6-7pm Kundalini Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 15 Mar   5- 7.30am   Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE CLASS)

Wed 15 Mar   3-3.45pm    Radiant Kids Class@ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 15 Mar  7.15-8.15pm   Kundalini Yoga @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road Col 5

Fri     16 Mar  3- 5pm Teachers Class and Meeting@ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock

Sat 17 Mar 9.30-10.30am Hatha General @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock, Col 5

Sun 18 Mar 10-11am Hatha General@ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock, Col 5

Sun 19 Mar 5.30-7pm Healing Gong Bath@ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Pl, Col 7