Reactive or Hidden Self – Kundalini yoga 6.15pm Mon 30 July 2018

Reactive Personality ie Hidden Self

Over the last few weeks we have been looking at how we can be truly happy, to feel good about ourselves, be able to cope with difficult feelings and circumstances. But the biggest obstacle to all of this is what Yogi Bhajan named as the Reactive personality or Hidden self.

Firstly we need to understand that we originate from the soul which does not include any polarity, just oneness, which reflects true self. We incarnate into a Universe of polarities, where our persona and shadow self exist. Persona is the part of our personality which we project into the world, how we would like to be seen. The Shadow is the part of the personality which we keep hidden. For example if you are a very kind, generous person there is within you a selfish and mean side. In order not to be at odds with your Shadow you need to acknowledge both sides of the persona but choose to be kind and generous to yourself and others. Understanding that sometimes you need to put yourself first and look after your financial needs. Then there is no conflict between the persona and the shadow.

Within the Shadow lies the Hidden or reactive self. This part of us is created through experiences we had usually in the first 7 years of our life. Just like the little angle baby becomes a monster during the terrible twos, this reactive self does not die with childhood. It stays in the subconscious realm as we get older, holding on to its hidden agenda, undermining our ability to appreciate life, be happy and fulfilled. The reactive self is activated when we do not get what we want. In these circumstances we become angry but it is not just feelings of anger but the reactive mind gets involved, saying, why am I angry, I feel bad about being angry, etc. Adding layer upon layer to this initial feeling from the hidden self.

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How to recognise the Reactive or Hidden Self ?

  1. Feelings of regret about the past, past mistakes, etc.
  2. When you begin defending yourself because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  3. We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not content.
  4. The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.
  5. Feeling sorry for ourselves, life is unfair, living in our stories.
  6. . Because we are not neutral about ourselves we dismiss the hidden self and its agendas and do not believe the outside world is affected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align with the hidden self. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve our hidden agenda. We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.   If our habit is to simple react, or to react and deny we reacted we divide and fight ourselves. It is just like trying to see ourselves in a shattered mirror.

These are just some of the signs of the Reactive personality. When they occur the hidden personality is dominating our normal personality

So how do we deal with it?

Shiv Charan our teacher is very clear about this, he says when you observe the Hidden self, you have got to be very very firm.

  1. There is nothing to heal.
  2. Do not mentally react to it or start to analysis it or discuss it.
  3. Hit it with a Mantra. Mantra is like a tread, a diver’s life line, keep chanting, keep the rhythm and you will get through the waves of it until you come out on the other side.
  4. Have a tool box you can use when the Reactive Self arises, Inhale 4 exhale 1.
  5. For most people we will never be able to get rid of the hidden self reactive personality, only put it to sleep.

Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk  www.3ho.org

Mon 30 July 6.15-7.30pm       Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 31 July 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga@ Om Shambala, Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 31 July 3.30-4.30pm       Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Tues 31 July 6-7.15pm           Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 1 Aug 5.00- 7.30am     Sadhana @ 145/5 Fife Rd, Colombo 5 (FREE CLASS)

Wed 1 Aug 6.45-8pm      Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 2 Aug 11-1pm     Special Needs Kids and Teachers @ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Fri    3 Aug 5.45-7pm       Youvolution Gong Bath – Jungle Beach Ahungalla

 

 

 

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Dissolve your Hidden Self by Increasing your Radiance

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The Hidden self diminishes our radiance and connection to our true identity.

Summary of Hidden Self, Agenda and Mask it creates

The Hidden Self and mask is completely separate to the Persona or Shadow Self. Nearly all of us have a Hidden self with a hidden agenda which developed between the ages of 0-7years. The trauma you could have suffered could be as simple as your mother left you in a room while you were asleep. You woke up scared and insecure, crying and the ego decided you never wanted to feel like this again. So you become reactive and start manipulating situations so as to avoid these feelings of insecurity and fear. The child’s agenda if it is not dealt with consciously at a young age becomes the hidden self. Because we are not neutral about ourselves we dismiss the hidden self and its agendas and do not believe the outside world is affected by our private thoughts and feelings.

We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.   If our habit is to simple react, or to react and deny we reacted we divide and fight ourselves. It is just like trying to see ourselves in a shattered mirror.

Building our Presence and the Authentic Self

When we develop:

  1. Our frontal lobe so that we can use its discriminative ability to filter our thoughts and impulses.
  2. Develop our Intuitive capacity.
  3. Expand our radiance and Aura so we connect our electromagnetic field to the Universal Electromagnetic field.

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There is 2 ways of doing this, you need to work on Shakti and Bhakti.Shakti or strength is created through the daily discipline of kundalini yoga. By balancing the pranas and opening the central channel so that the kundalini energy of consciousness can flow. In many lectures Yogi Bhajan explained to us how we can develop an aura extending to 9 feet in all directions. However self-doubt, inner conflict can diminish the aura to 3-4 feet in a moment. To extend your radiance to connect with the universal magnetic field you need to enter a state of neutrality

Bhakti is the approach of love, surrender and merger. Normally we live in duality and conflict which saps the radiance of our aura. When we bow our head to our divinity and that of everything in the Universe, we open up a diagonal path past the blocks that seem to be in our way.

But our inner agendas dissuade us from this practice of surrender, instead we practice half-heartedly, comfortable and familiar with our own limitations. Our limits begin to define us rather than our radiance liberating us.

Question: How are you going to bring/more Shakti and Bhakti into your life?

This week’s classes:

Mon 7 Sept 6-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Pl, Col 7

Tues 8 Sept 8.30 -9.30am Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Rd,

Tues 8 Sept  6-7pm Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 9 Sept 4.45- 7am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 9 Sept 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Friday 11 Sept 6-7pm Teachers Class @The Om Space, 185/9Havelock Rd Col 5.

Sat 12 Sept 9.30 -10.30am Hatha General The Om Space185/9 Havelock Rd, Col 5.

Saturday  6.30-7.30pm Introduction to Aquarian Teacher Training and Gong Bath – FREE @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Sunday 13 Sept 10-11am Hatha General The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Rd

Sat nam Fi x

 

HOW TO INTEGRATE OUR SHADOW PERSONALITY

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Over the next few weeks we will be working deeply on our subconscious mind and personalities to understand our motivation and ourselves better. So we can communicate from our authentic self. For this you will need to understand the following definitions.

Definitions?

Authentic Self: This is the projection from the reality of your soul. It is when we are intuitive and live in the experience of each moment.

Persona: A projection from the authentic self, but only the side we want everyone to see.

Shadow Self: The polarity of the Persona. Also projected from the authentic self, but our weaknesses that we do not want anyone to see. We must accept and integrate the shadow so we can feel whole.

Hidden Self: This is fake self, based on our subconscious traumas and dramas not processed in childhood. It blocks the natural radiance of the authentic self.

Mask: A projection from the Hidden Self, created to manipulate relationships and environments to satisfy the urges and agendas of the Hidden self.

Why do I need to discover the Shadow Self?

It is important that we accept we are human. By that I mean that we are born imperfect but we have to learn to see our imperfections as perfections. When my teacher Shiv Charan told me this 9 years ago I taken aback.

There are things we are naturally good at and find easy and things that we find difficult. Why not accept both equally as part of ourselves? Instead we make judgements of who we think we should be, what society expects of us.

 PRACTICAL SKILLS TO DEVELOP

  1. Do not see your weaknesses as a problem to overcome.
  2. Kindly accept them as part of you, just like accepting a scar as part of your body.
  3. Say to yourself, I accept all parts of me. Nothing is good or bad only thinking makes it so.
  4. Stop trying to be perfect. Ask yourself why you need to do everything perfectly or be perfect? Is it because you believe if you are not perfect you will not be loved?
  5. For example say I am not very good with accounts, if I acknowledge this and hire a good book keeper instead of struggling with something I really dislike and find frustrating.

THIS WEEKS CLASSES:

Mon 24 Aug 6-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 25 Aug 8.30 -9.30am Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Rd,

Tues 25 Aug  6-7pm Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 26 Aug 4.45- 7am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 26 Aug 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space,  185/9 Havelock Road

Thurs 27 Aug 6-7pm Healing Gong Bath, 9 Greenlands Lane, Col7

Saturday 28 Aug 5-7.30am Sadhana @ The Om Space, Col 5 (FREE)

Saturday 4.30pm Kids Yoga Class @ The Good market – Race Course