The midlife crisis does not have to be a crisis, essentially it is a time for self-assessment or revaluation of your life so far. It can hit during the life cycles clusters of 33, 35, 36 or 42, 44 or 54, 55, 56. At this stage in your life you have finished the process of accumulations, which pre occupied you in the first third of your life, now is the chance to decide what worked or did not work? Are you really going in the direction you want to go in? How about your dreams and ambitions when you were younger, have they been fulfilled? When this shift hits it can bring great resolution, creativity, the applied intelligence and understanding of ourselves through consciousness or bring up deep subconscious, sometimes irrational fears, of past failures or the future, that make us feel lost, nostalgic and create a deep reluctance to embrace the future. This overwhelm can easily lead to depression.
During this time of evolutionary change our subconscious fears during these life cycle changes are coming up very strongly. Deep primal subconscious fear is coming up so it can be released. Emotions are very important at this time, in order to release these emotions we must allow ourselves to feel them. The emotional body is the closest to the physical body so it makes us feel physically really uncomfortable and it is difficult to ignore. Not only do we have to deal with these uncomfortable feelings but we also have to deal with how our mind reacts to this discomfort. The mind likes to avoid pain and seeks pleasure. So it generates thoughts to self-medicate or produce emotional satisfaction like shopping, drinking, smoking, drugs, gaming, fixation on other people and their problems, whatever your pattern of pain avoidance is will surface. Avoiding these painful feelings give a temporary relief to your mind but this feel good numbing will not last very long, therefore you will back to dealing with your original emotions.
If emotionally you are really shut down, it will manifest in disease, that is why so many people are suffering from diseases at the present time.
The most primal fear we have to deal with is fear of the material world. Fear of our own survival. This is in our genes, and genetics does not care if you have a comfortable life or money or not, it just cares about keeping the species alive.
Yoga works on the physical plain, emotional and mental level. You have 2 ways in which you can deal with these feelings you can deal with them on the energetic level internally, through awareness, working with your mind, body and feelings or you manifest your deepest fears in this 3-dimensional earth plain i.e. time and space become your teachers. Both methods work but time and space is more brutal.
Yogic science helps us transcend our fears. We are born to be free, manifest our dreams and love that is our purpose here on earth. Deep meditations can rewire our brain to help us deal with our deep subconscious fears, allowing us to internally confront the fear, embrace it to erase it, so you do not have to manifest it.
Once you have dealt with this period of time you will feel emotionally more stable than before. During these times we need to intensify our self-care. Maybe change pace a little, slow down, spend more time feeling great in our skin, meditating into a place of stillness so life can come to us. We need to face the mental fear of the future and conquer it.
Practical Application – Self-care breath
Self-care breath increases inner energy and strength
boosts the immune system, and cleanses the body.
- Sit comfortably in a meditation posture.
- Open the mouth and form a circle that is tight and
precise—a boar’s mouth.
- Place the hands crossed over the Heart Centre, right over left.
- Close your eyes and sense the area under your palms.
- Breathe a steady, powerful Cannon Breath through the mouth. Let your mind focus on the mouth ring and shape the breath into a ring. Continue 5 minutes.
- To end: Inhale and hold the breath. Relax the mouth.
Mentally repeat: “I am beautiful, I am innocent, I am innocent, I am beautiful.” Exhale through the nose. Do this a total of five times. Then relax.
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Mon 12 September 6.15-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7
Tues 13 September 6-7pm Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5
Wed 14 September 4.45- 7am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)
Wed 14 September 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road
Fri 16 Sept 6.30-7.30pm Community Class @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road (by Donation)
Sat 17 Sept 6-7.30pm Gong Healing @ Sri Yoga Shala, Galle