We need to fill ourselves with value everyday, this can be done by chanting or singing from our heart feeling the joy and fullness there or by breathing the fragrance of love in to our hearts. If you do not do this on a regular basis you will feel a deep sense of emptiness which you will fill up with unconscious habits and patterns which make your external world more valuable than your inneral one.
Self– esteem is the fragrance that emanates from the Self just as kindness, self-respect, self-love all originate from this place too.
5 Ways To Gain Self Value
- Command the Mind
The mind tells us constantly what we are worth. Whenever you attempt to move forward in your life, it is the mind that sends the deluge of critical, judgmental and self-hating thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Daily meditation is non-negotiable now in order to develop a relationship with your mind. Commanding the mind is a full time job. It is becoming a witness to your thoughts and refusing to react or act until you are clear.
- Trust Yourself
We all have an inner compass that guides us through time and space. However, we have been taught and trained not to trust it. When my teacher Shiv Charan told me about my inner compass, I simple could not believe it. I was always someone who did not trust myself and looked to others, teachers etc. to know better than myself. When you give other people power over yourself you are doubting your own value. Only you can really know what is best for yourself. This does not mean you dismiss everyone elses opinions. You can listen neutrally to the opinion and see if it resonates with your heart. Truth is a frequency of energy that will resound with your Self or not. Your Mind is not your inner compass. Test this out when you listen to people. Do you feel YES and it feels right or NO which feels a bit off or wrong –like you suddenly are lopsided?
- Know yourself and value yourself
Can you really say you know yourself? Chances are there are parts of you that you need to embrace. The only reason you don’t accept yourself is that you have written a self-concept of you that is not the truth. Most people want to be someone they’re not. Look at the magazine racks. They sell you how not to be you, to aspire to be someone else. You lower your self-value when you compare yourself to someone else.
Instead of comparing yourself, get to know yourself. Spend time alone and out of the conditioning field of other people so that you can really feel what it is to be YOU.
To start to know YOU, ask yourself questions and answer them in truth:
What uplifts your Spirit?
What opens your Heart?
- Embrace your Perfection
Your mind is always telling you are lacking in some way and you need to prove yourself. The mind will tell you that you are not smart enough, attractive enough, successful enough–basically you are not good enough and you have no value. This can be happening at the unconscious level and perhaps this wound has been handed down through your ancestral lineage. This energy will drive you to make choices that are not correct for you in order to prove yourself.
Before any action, take time to question your motivation. Ask yourself, “Why do I want to do this? Am I trying to prove myself to someone? Prove that I am a good friend, partner, worker, loyal? Am I feeling worthless right now and trying to escape from these painful feelings?” The Truth is that you are Perfect and Whole. Focus on feeling full in your heart and this will allow you to embrace your imperfections as perfections.
- Let Go of the Past
People can recount all the horrible things that have happened to them in their past and all the people who are responsible for their low self-esteem. The ego’s version of letting go of the past is seeking some kind of vengeance or payback before moving on. Or diminishing the pain, “It wasn’t that bad, my friend had it worse.” To truly let go of the past, you have to go into the dark recesses of the subconscious mind and at the cellular level. This means rolling up your sleeves and feeling all the pain that is associated with these memories and let go of these feelings.
Cross left under right arm on your shoulders, bow your head to your heart, take the value from external things to your heart and chant , “Gobinda, Gobinda Hari Hari chant for 11 mins. Translates to sustainer and supporter of all.
This week’s classes:
Mon 18 Jan 6-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Pl, Col 7
Tues 19 Jan 6-7pm Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5
Wed 20 Jan 4.45- 7am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)
Wed 20 Jan 3-3.45pm Kids Yoga @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5
Wed 20 Jan 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road
Sat 23 Jan 10.30-4.30pm Yoga and Art Workshop with Serena and me, The Om Space
Sun 24 5.30-6.30pm Gong Healing @ Prana Lounge