Last week we dived into the hidden self or reactive personality, which sabotages our happiness. How does our insecurity bring out the reactive personality and how can be stop being insecure. Yogi Bhajan states, “The only purpose of life is not to be scared of insecurity. Insecurity does nothing but scare a person, It’s a scarecrow.”
Feelings of insecurity arise when we do not trust ourselves or others. We subconsciously send out the message that we are not worthy, good enough to love, be happy, prosperous, etc. We may experience problems with relationships and resort to transactional relationships. Our value to others becomes based on what we do for them not our connection to them. When we allow insecurity to take over you are sure to see the reactive or hidden self over take our persona Learning to feel comfortable in our own skin in any situation is key. Guru Singh says make everywhere your home so you feel dominion not the insecurity to dominate people or places. Energetically our insecurity is related to our third chakra which reflects our personal power and sense of self. It is also directly related to our stomachs, situated to the left of the sternum.
When this energy centre is not strong and balanced, we lack the trust in our power, we settle for bad relationships, jobs, family situations because we are too afraid to take a risk and change things. We use our stomachs to numb ourselves, avoid feelings by overeating and feelings physically too full.
Focus on your strengths – I have been doing the happiness course with Yale University (see Coursea https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being/home/welcome) and in week 1 we take a quiz to know our signature strengths( http://www.viacharacter.org/www.) Research shows that when you concentrate on using your signature strengthens in different ways everyday it makes you happy and you are not focusing on your weaknesses which make us feel insecure. In fact If you are using any 4 of your top 7 strengths you feel your life is in flow. For example my top signature strength is Fairness, so if I include someone who is marginalised, this makes me feel really good.
Ishnaan -Take a cold shower every morning. Well Ishnaan is a little more than just a cold shower please look up the technique. I really recommend it, it helps get rid of those negative thoughts, complaints about lack of sleep, sadness, etc that you experience sometimes after dreams or subconsciously. Yogi Bhajan says whenever you feel bad, take a cold shower and then towel yourself down vigorously until your skin feels flush and tingly. This uses our nervous system and capillaries to make the blood chemistry changes which will help with how we feel and our security.
Mantra – Yoga Ji, said using the firs puri of the Japji, Sochai, Soch n Hovee… as well asChattra Chakkra Vartee will support in getting rid of insecurity and bring victory to the soul.
Meditation – When we go within and see our thoughts and emotions when we meditate we realise that these thoughts and emotions are not us, in fact we become consciously aware and this helps us separate the insecure feelings from our true self and connection to our infinity or soul Sat nam x email@example.com 0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk www.3ho.org
Mon 6 Aug 6.15-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7
Tues 7 Aug 9.45-10.45am Kundalini Yoga @Om Shambala, 143Fife Rd, Colombo5
Tues 7 Aug 6-7.15pm Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5
Wed 8 Aug 5.00- 7.30am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)
Wed 8 Aug 6.45-8pm Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5
Sat 11 Aug 11.15-12.15pm Radiant Kids Yoga @ British Council, Duplication Rd, Col 3
Sat 11 Aug 5.30-7pm New Moon Gong Bath @ Prana Lounge, Col 7