Stop Insecurity – Kundalini Yoga 6.15pm Mon 6 August Prana Lounge.

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Stop Insecurity

Last week we dived into the hidden self or reactive personality, which sabotages our happiness. How does our insecurity bring out the reactive personality and how can be stop being insecure. Yogi Bhajan states, “The only purpose of life is not to be scared of insecurity. Insecurity does nothing but scare a person, It’s a scarecrow.”

Feelings of insecurity arise when we do not trust ourselves or others. We subconsciously send out the message that we are not worthy, good enough to love, be happy, prosperous, etc. We may experience problems with relationships and resort to transactional relationships. Our value to others becomes based on what we do for them not our connection to them. When we allow insecurity to take over you are sure to see the reactive or hidden self over take our persona  Learning to feel comfortable in our own skin in any situation is key. Guru Singh says make everywhere your home so you feel dominion not the insecurity to dominate people or places. Energetically our insecurity is related to our third chakra which reflects our personal power and sense of self. It is also directly related to our stomachs, situated to the left of the sternum.

When this energy centre is not strong and balanced, we lack the trust in our power, we settle for bad relationships, jobs, family situations because we are too afraid to take a risk and change things. We use our stomachs to numb ourselves, avoid feelings by overeating and feelings physically too full.

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Practical Solutions

Focus on your strengths – I have been doing the happiness course with Yale University (see Coursea https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being/home/welcome) and in week 1 we take a quiz to know our signature strengths( http://www.viacharacter.org/www.) Research shows that when you concentrate on using your signature strengthens in different ways everyday it makes you happy and you are not focusing on your weaknesses which make us feel insecure. In fact If you are using any 4 of your top 7 strengths you feel your life is in flow. For example my top signature strength is Fairness, so if I include someone who is marginalised, this makes me feel really good.

Ishnaan -Take a cold shower every morning. Well Ishnaan is a little more than just a cold shower please look up the technique. I really recommend it, it helps get rid of those negative thoughts, complaints about lack of sleep, sadness, etc that you experience sometimes after dreams or subconsciously. Yogi Bhajan says whenever you feel bad, take a cold shower and then towel yourself down vigorously until your skin feels flush and tingly. This uses our nervous system and capillaries to make the blood chemistry changes which will help with how we feel and our security.

Mantra – Yoga Ji, said using the firs puri of the Japji, Sochai, Soch n Hovee… as well asChattra Chakkra Vartee will support in getting rid of insecurity and bring victory to the soul.

Meditation – When we go within and see our thoughts and emotions when we meditate we realise that these thoughts and emotions are not us, in fact we become consciously aware and this helps us separate the insecure feelings from our true self and connection to our infinity or soul Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk  www.3ho.org

Mon 6 Aug 6.15-7.30pm     Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 7 Aug 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga @Om Shambala, 143Fife Rd, Colombo5

Tues 7 Aug 6-7.15pm           Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 8 Aug 5.00- 7.30am   Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 8 Aug 6.45-8pm           Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Sat 11 Aug 11.15-12.15pm     Radiant Kids Yoga @ British Council, Duplication Rd, Col 3

Sat 11 Aug 5.30-7pm          New Moon Gong Bath @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

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Reactive or Hidden Self – Kundalini yoga 6.15pm Mon 30 July 2018

Reactive Personality ie Hidden Self

Over the last few weeks we have been looking at how we can be truly happy, to feel good about ourselves, be able to cope with difficult feelings and circumstances. But the biggest obstacle to all of this is what Yogi Bhajan named as the Reactive personality or Hidden self.

Firstly we need to understand that we originate from the soul which does not include any polarity, just oneness, which reflects true self. We incarnate into a Universe of polarities, where our persona and shadow self exist. Persona is the part of our personality which we project into the world, how we would like to be seen. The Shadow is the part of the personality which we keep hidden. For example if you are a very kind, generous person there is within you a selfish and mean side. In order not to be at odds with your Shadow you need to acknowledge both sides of the persona but choose to be kind and generous to yourself and others. Understanding that sometimes you need to put yourself first and look after your financial needs. Then there is no conflict between the persona and the shadow.

Within the Shadow lies the Hidden or reactive self. This part of us is created through experiences we had usually in the first 7 years of our life. Just like the little angle baby becomes a monster during the terrible twos, this reactive self does not die with childhood. It stays in the subconscious realm as we get older, holding on to its hidden agenda, undermining our ability to appreciate life, be happy and fulfilled. The reactive self is activated when we do not get what we want. In these circumstances we become angry but it is not just feelings of anger but the reactive mind gets involved, saying, why am I angry, I feel bad about being angry, etc. Adding layer upon layer to this initial feeling from the hidden self.

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How to recognise the Reactive or Hidden Self ?

  1. Feelings of regret about the past, past mistakes, etc.
  2. When you begin defending yourself because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  3. We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not content.
  4. The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.
  5. Feeling sorry for ourselves, life is unfair, living in our stories.
  6. . Because we are not neutral about ourselves we dismiss the hidden self and its agendas and do not believe the outside world is affected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align with the hidden self. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve our hidden agenda. We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.   If our habit is to simple react, or to react and deny we reacted we divide and fight ourselves. It is just like trying to see ourselves in a shattered mirror.

These are just some of the signs of the Reactive personality. When they occur the hidden personality is dominating our normal personality

So how do we deal with it?

Shiv Charan our teacher is very clear about this, he says when you observe the Hidden self, you have got to be very very firm.

  1. There is nothing to heal.
  2. Do not mentally react to it or start to analysis it or discuss it.
  3. Hit it with a Mantra. Mantra is like a tread, a diver’s life line, keep chanting, keep the rhythm and you will get through the waves of it until you come out on the other side.
  4. Have a tool box you can use when the Reactive Self arises, Inhale 4 exhale 1.
  5. For most people we will never be able to get rid of the hidden self reactive personality, only put it to sleep.

Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk  www.3ho.org

Mon 30 July 6.15-7.30pm       Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 31 July 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga@ Om Shambala, Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 31 July 3.30-4.30pm       Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Tues 31 July 6-7.15pm           Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 1 Aug 5.00- 7.30am     Sadhana @ 145/5 Fife Rd, Colombo 5 (FREE CLASS)

Wed 1 Aug 6.45-8pm      Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 2 Aug 11-1pm     Special Needs Kids and Teachers @ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Fri    3 Aug 5.45-7pm       Youvolution Gong Bath – Jungle Beach Ahungalla

 

 

 

The Buddhi Mind & why we meditate? – Kundalini Yoga Mon 2 April 6.15pm@Prana Lounge, Colombo 7

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The Buddhi Mind and why we Meditate?

We have worked a lot on the mind and in these final weeks before Sri Lankan New Year I wanted to clear up some concepts around meditation, concentration and relaxation. This is what we know so far:

  1. The mind is automatic and there is a lot being thought, processed in the sub, unconscious and conscious mind. But the key thing is that you recognise that YOU are not the one thinking; your MIND is the one thinking. You are the one observing a small portion of the thoughts the mind is having.
  2. The Mind loves contrast so it can create a blueprint for the mind. It likes polarities because they are helpful for classification, good/ bad, right/wrong. Pre established judgements of the world allow the brain to do less work, use less energy and be on a low power mode.
  3. You can affect your mind because it is actually very subtle matter. It can be affected by things like food, breathing, lifestyle, sound and energy.
  4. The point of meditation isn’t to shut it off the mind, it is always working. We meditate to both delete obsolete content that has been stored in the mind and pause in our identification with it.
  5. The only way to gain control of the mind to start serving you, is to use a technique that removes the self reference point, the I.   When we take our attention to the breath, body, mantra, an object etc, this concentration on something beyond the mind is like working a muscle. After the muscle is worked it relaxes more easily. This is the same as your mind, at one point during or after the focused meditation you will start to feel more relaxed and with regular practice start developing the Buddhi mind, which is intuitive, discerning and discriminates what is false and real.

The word meditation has become super trendy, people talk about beer meditation, cooking meditation, all sorts of times when they feel they are in a meditative state.   Feeling relaxed is one of the effects of meditation but it is not the only one. I discussed this with one of the wonderful teachers from the UK who were visiting us, Hari Karam.   Relaxation is essential in life, doing things you love and feeling relaxed but do not confuse it with meditation which is essentially concentration to unload the mind, relax it, make it intuitive and in higher states feel a merger with the Infinite.   This is very different to feeling relaxed after a glass of wine or TV show. The former puts you above thought, while the later puts you below thought.

So in summary we meditate to transcend the waves of the mind and become conscious of our sensory system. It allows us to see what is in our mind, why we are behaving as we do, so we know what is real and not. In higher forms it allows you to know the unknown (intuition) and see the unseen. So you can steer yourself through life, without reaction with GRACE.

Practical Solutions –The easiest way to meditate is through simple, seated breath, or mantra meditation. Just sit comfortably in a quiet place, straighten the spine, relax the body and slow your breath. Focus on your breath or on repeating a mantra. Keep your body still. Your mind will dump out a lot of thoughts from the subconscious, your may experience pain the in body. Watch them, they are not YOU. Just continue to sit still and continue to bring yourself back to your focus. Eventually the thoughts will become still and you will feel surrounded by comfort. Yogi Bhajan on Prayer vs. Meditation: “Prayer is when the mind is one-pointed and man talks to Infinity. Meditation is when the mind becomes totally clean and receptive, and Infinity talks to the man.”Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk www.3ho.org

This week’s classes:

Mon 2 April 6.15-7.30pm    Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 3 April 9.45-10.45am Kundalini Yoga @ Om Shambala, 143 Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 3 April 3.30-4.30pm Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickell Rd, Col 8

Wed 4 April 5.00- 7.30am   Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 4 April 6.45-8pm         Kundalini Yoga@ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 5 April 11 – 1pm          Special Needs Kids and Teachers Class@ Reach Beyond

Thurs 5 April 3-4pm               Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7-

Fri     6 April 10-11.30             YTT Chakra Workshop and Gong Bath, Prana Lounge.

Sat   7 April 6-7.30pm         Healing Gong Bath@Sri Yoga Shala, Thalpe, Galle

 

Let the Mind Serve You – Kundalini Yoga 6.15pm Mon 26 March 2018

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By thinking and thinking nothing happens! Train the mind to find the solution.

Letting go is one of the powerful ways we can learn to make our mind work for us and start to develop a real understanding and control of our mind. But the big one is when we are confronted by a real challenge in the moment. When this happens, can you stop your mind from blaming, feeling shame, thinking how it should have been, would have been, why me, I cannot cope, etc? This is the real test and it is one of the reasons we need challenge in our life to help us refine our mental reactions.

Yogi Bhajan tell us this, “If we can master the use and command of the mind, we can enjoy this world and live truthfully, gracefully and prosperously.”

The challenge is that often times we feel that the mind is beyond our reach and impact. The mind acts so fast we do not have the habit or chance to stop it reacting. This is why we need to make a clear relationship with the mind. i.e. realise my thoughts and/ or feelings are not me. My mind is under me so I do not need to react to it. Instead I assess the information the mind gives to me with my 3 functional minds and decide what action to take, based on what is the highest outcome or good in any given situation.

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Practical Solutions –Here are some triggers for you to know your mind is reacting and you are under the mind:

  • Whenever you are subject to the mind you act and become inferior. You communicate to receive sympathy. You may say, “Why is this happening to me? I cannot help my feelings. I acting out of fear”.
  • Also when your negative mind says something to you, immediately it should be accompanied by the positive mind saying the polar opposite which is both assessed by the neutral mind. When this is not happening you know you are stuck in a mind loop.
  • Procrastination, thinking, talking, writing lists but not getting on and doing what is needed.
  • Resistance to what is occurring in the moment. Things not going the way you expect or want.

Yogi Bhajan gives us a really easy solution once we notice we are being triggered into reaction. If you can switch your dominant nostril breathing to the left, your mind will serve you. He says that the moment you start breathing through your left nostril your elementary self comes into to play and the totality of your mind becomes one, then the radiance will increase in your electromagnetic field and you will become very pleasant, positive instead of angry and reactive. Try this out is it really good. Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk www.3ho.org

This week’s classes:

Mon 26 Mar 6.15-7.30pm    Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues27 Mar 9.45-10.45am Kundalini Yoga @ Om Shambala, 143 Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 27 Mar 3.30-4.30pm Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickell Rd, Col 8

Wed 28 Mar 5.00- 7.30am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 28 Mar 3.30-4.15am  Kids Yoga Class @ The Om Space, Colombo 5

Wed 28 Mar 6.45-8pm       Kundalini Yoga@ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 29 Mar 11 – 1pm    Special Needs Kids and Teachers Class@ Reach Beyond

Thurs 29 Mar 3-4pm          Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7-

Thurs 29 Mar 6-8pm  How to Play Gong& Gong Bath@ 9 Greenlands Lane, (2500Rs)

Sat   31 Mar 6-7.30pm         Blue Moon Gong Bath@Sri Yoga Shala, Thalpe, Galle

Meditation to control your breathing and mind

Posture:Sit in Easy Pose with a straight spine.

Breath: Close off your right nostril with your right thumb and inhale deeply through your left nostril. Exhale completely through your mouth.

Time: Continue for 6 minutes.

To End: Inhale deeply, interlace your fingers and stretch them over your head palms up. Hold your breath for 10-15 seconds while you stretch your spine upward. Exhale and relax.

Mind is a link between Infinity and you. When the soul got the body, the soul asked God, ‘What is my link with you, my Lord?’ And God said, ‘Mind.’ quote by Yogi Bhajan