Grow your Real Self Esteem
Last week we discussed how happiness can be a learnt behaviour but how about the habits we need to unlearn, like low self esteem. I think most people can complain of having some sort of low self esteem, either about their weight, how they look, if they are too white or too dark, not witty or clever the list is endless. Whenever you use your will power to try and counter these perceived faults you end up in an endless loop from false confidence to self-loathing and then back again.
The real way to grow our self esteem is to connect ourselves to our inner or true self. The mind is at the root of most of our problems, especially low self-esteem. Whenever you attempt to move forward in your life, it is the mind that sends the deluge of critical, judgmental and self-hating thoughts. You are not your mind. Therefore daily meditation is now an essential tool to develop a real relationship with your mind. Meditation gives you a chance to witness your mind and realise it just pulls you in all directions. Your job in your daily life is to become a witness to those thoughts and be aware not to react to the thoughts until you are clear of what is real. To do this you need a reality check, you put the information you are receiving through your 3 minds. Then neutrally take the thought, advice, etc and put it through your own receiver. Truth is a frequency of energy that will resound with your Self or not. Your Mind is not your inner authority. Test this out when you listen to people. Do you feel YES and lit up or NO that feels a bit off—as if you are lopsided? Sometimes feelings of low self esteem are trying to tell us something. We are not truly aligned with ourselves today, maybe not recognising our self care needs?
We have a self concept which is created by our mind. Most people want to be or look like someone they are not. If we just could accept the truth of who we are which includes all our shadows we would not have an issue with self esteem. But that means work. Work to work out what it really feels like to be you. Find out what makes your heart sing, what uplifts your spirit, what your real values are separate from your families, society, etc. If this was your last week, what would you be doing now?
Yogi Bhajan says that self esteem also has a physical and spiritual aspect. “In other words, if the balance between the tattvas and the chakras is established, then there shall be no earthquake because the personality will be harmonious. It shall have ample reserve through the squares of the being because energy will flow through the body along the proper channels. Also extra energy may be stored in the energy squares of the body for use in times of stress; to write off the pain of childhood; to overcome negative influences, negative thoughts, and negative company; to cope successfully with the pain of adulthood, the fear of old age, and the pressures of family; and to withstand the projective animosity of social, economic, and personal environments”.
So let’s work on balancing our tattva’s and chakras and check on our thoughts to start connecting with our real sense of self which will lead ultimately to real self esteem. The tattvas are where we can transform our 5 passions to serve our infinite self not our finite needs.
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