For me Superwomen Syndrome seems to come out in the run up to Christmas when I host my family, it is the busiest time work wise and added to that this year we had a Level 2 Retreat for 6 days, with students flying in from Asia and me having to teach.
When I read an article on uber females, hardworking, health obsessed, they want to have it all and do it all, relentless in their drive to be over achievers and prove their worth. I realised that Kundalini Yoga is a balm for this new psychological monster.
Have you ever felt that your check list was taking over your life? One girl described her life as setting the clock forward so she gained an extra 11 mins on everyone. She would wake up at 6.11am, do 30 mins of exercise, make a two course breakfast, fruit salad and chia porridge, read the paper and listen to radio 4 whilst eating, checking off health, fitness and current affaires on her list. Work hard but also make a point to be kind to people look after her nephews once a week, ticking of responsible and supportive boxes. I am not critising this girl but asking us to question ourselves why we do not feel enough as we are?
PRACTICAL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF?
- Are you living this life or existing within a self-inflicted regime?
- Whose approval are you seeking?
- If you stopped your check lists for one day, what do you think would happen?
- When did you start to feel you needed to achieve in order to feel worthy?
- Do I feel uneasy when not doing something worthy? But for every good decision there is always a better one, this bombardment of choice puts us under great pressure.
- When can I give myself time out from my regime?
- Is my regime a container which holds my life together?
- Do I depend on my external world for myself of worth?
- What practice can I start, positive affirmation etc. to find internal security.
We need to move away from putting our security into activities and achievements and move them into our internal self. When doing all your good activities do them mindfully, not just to fill time or automatically by route. Spend time everyday feeling how good it feels to be you inside your body. This can only come through physical awareness. Do not seek out approval from the outside world, i.e. posting all your achievements or things you are doing on social media. Keep a few things private achievements just for you, feel good about them even if not one else knows. Practice this kriya for self-love. I think why everyone loved the book/film Bridget Jone’s Diary is because the hero Darcy loves her just the way she is. When you start really accepting yourself as you are from an internal sense of wellbeing you realise you are better than you ever imaged you could be.
Posture: Sit in Easy Pose with a straight spine and hold your right palm six to nine inches above the top centre of your head. The right palm faces down, blessing you. This self-blessing corrects the aura. The left elbow is bent with the upper arm near the rib cage. The forearm and hand point upward. The left palm faces forward and blesses the world.
Eyes: The eyes are closed and focus at the lunar centre in the middle of the chin.
Breath: Breathe long, slow, and deep with a feeling of self-affection. Try to bring the breath to one breath per minute: Inhale for 20 seconds, hold for 20 seconds, exhale for 20 seconds.
Time: Continue for 11 minutes. Then inhale deeply and move slowly and directly into position for Exercise 2.
This exercise will benefit everything between the neck and navel. It will give strength to the heart and will open up the heart centre.
Posture: Extend your arms straight out in front, parallel to the ground, palms facing down. Stretch out to your maximum.
Eyes: The eyes are closed and focused at the lunar center in the center of the chin.
Breath: The breath is long, slow, and deep.
Time: Continue for 3 minutes. Then inhale deeply and move slowly and directly into position for Exercise 3.
Posture: Stretch your arms straight up with the palms facing forward. There is no bend in the elbows.
Eyes: The eyes are closed and focused at the lunar center.
Breath: The breath continues to be long, slow, and deep.
Time: Continue for 3minutes.To finish: Inhale, hold your breath for 10 seconds while you stretch your arms upward (try to stretch so much that your buttocks are lifted) and tighten all the muscles of your body. Exhale. Repeat this sequence two more times. This set can be found in Self-Knowledge
This week’s classes:
Mon 11 Jan 6-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Pl, Col 7
Tues 12 Jan 6-7pm Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5
Wed 13 Jan 4.45- 7am Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)
Wed 13 Jan 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road