Reactive or Hidden Self – Kundalini yoga 6.15pm Mon 30 July 2018

Reactive Personality ie Hidden Self

Over the last few weeks we have been looking at how we can be truly happy, to feel good about ourselves, be able to cope with difficult feelings and circumstances. But the biggest obstacle to all of this is what Yogi Bhajan named as the Reactive personality or Hidden self.

Firstly we need to understand that we originate from the soul which does not include any polarity, just oneness, which reflects true self. We incarnate into a Universe of polarities, where our persona and shadow self exist. Persona is the part of our personality which we project into the world, how we would like to be seen. The Shadow is the part of the personality which we keep hidden. For example if you are a very kind, generous person there is within you a selfish and mean side. In order not to be at odds with your Shadow you need to acknowledge both sides of the persona but choose to be kind and generous to yourself and others. Understanding that sometimes you need to put yourself first and look after your financial needs. Then there is no conflict between the persona and the shadow.

Within the Shadow lies the Hidden or reactive self. This part of us is created through experiences we had usually in the first 7 years of our life. Just like the little angle baby becomes a monster during the terrible twos, this reactive self does not die with childhood. It stays in the subconscious realm as we get older, holding on to its hidden agenda, undermining our ability to appreciate life, be happy and fulfilled. The reactive self is activated when we do not get what we want. In these circumstances we become angry but it is not just feelings of anger but the reactive mind gets involved, saying, why am I angry, I feel bad about being angry, etc. Adding layer upon layer to this initial feeling from the hidden self.

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How to recognise the Reactive or Hidden Self ?

  1. Feelings of regret about the past, past mistakes, etc.
  2. When you begin defending yourself because feelings of shame, loss and fear arise. It prevents us from acknowledging our accountability for what happens to us in life. If it is happening to you, it is happening through you.
  3. We may be busy, our lives filled with many people, tasks and adventures but inside we are not content.
  4. The interconnection between the left and right hemisphere is weakened. The effect is often a change in voice and tone. We are angry, childlike, talkative, full of stories, sneaky and insecure.
  5. Feeling sorry for ourselves, life is unfair, living in our stories.
  6. . Because we are not neutral about ourselves we dismiss the hidden self and its agendas and do not believe the outside world is affected by our private thoughts and feelings. The ego and subconscious mind align with the hidden self. This now reactive personality based on unprocessed childhood trauma, creates thousands of thoughts, feelings and narratives to serve our hidden agenda. We react in the same way to all situations, which may not make sense in the current moment. The gap between us and reality increases.   If our habit is to simple react, or to react and deny we reacted we divide and fight ourselves. It is just like trying to see ourselves in a shattered mirror.

These are just some of the signs of the Reactive personality. When they occur the hidden personality is dominating our normal personality

So how do we deal with it?

Shiv Charan our teacher is very clear about this, he says when you observe the Hidden self, you have got to be very very firm.

  1. There is nothing to heal.
  2. Do not mentally react to it or start to analysis it or discuss it.
  3. Hit it with a Mantra. Mantra is like a tread, a diver’s life line, keep chanting, keep the rhythm and you will get through the waves of it until you come out on the other side.
  4. Have a tool box you can use when the Reactive Self arises, Inhale 4 exhale 1.
  5. For most people we will never be able to get rid of the hidden self reactive personality, only put it to sleep.

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Mon 30 July 6.15-7.30pm       Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Col 7

Tues 31 July 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga@ Om Shambala, Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 31 July 3.30-4.30pm       Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Tues 31 July 6-7.15pm           Kundalini Yoga Class Shaunagh @ 145/5Fife Road, Col 5

Wed 1 Aug 5.00- 7.30am     Sadhana @ 145/5 Fife Rd, Colombo 5 (FREE CLASS)

Wed 1 Aug 6.45-8pm      Kundalini Yoga @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 2 Aug 11-1pm     Special Needs Kids and Teachers @ Reach Beyond, Tickel Rd, Col 8

Fri    3 Aug 5.45-7pm       Youvolution Gong Bath – Jungle Beach Ahungalla

 

 

 

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Make all your Relationships Authentic – 18 Sept 6.15-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, Colombo 7

We now know that our real soul mate is when we connect deeply with our spirit. Once we can feel our spirit, we can then start to bring that clear, real relationship we have with our self into relating with others.

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The problem is that our relationships with our friends, partners, colleagues, students, etc. are always in a state of change. They are very complex. We need to keep a clear relationship with ourselves so we can extend that out through our electromagnetic field when we deal with others.  This is called having an authentic relationship.  Relationships even ones filled with conflict we deal with through integrity, kindness, intuitive intelligence  and neutrally.  You always express love, your authenticity  and your soul,  as opposed to your projected fears and defences that are provoked during challenging circumstances.

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Now think of a time in your life when you felt the most authentic and your core self? What do you look, sound and feel like? With whom do you feel you can be yourself without feeling judged? How do you recognise an authentic relationship verses an inauthentic one where you have something to gain from displaying particular behaviour.

Yogi bhajan says, “ Relationship is nothing but a totally extended experience of self”.

For me being authentic is saying what I mean and following through with my words.  I have had to start being more careful with how I relate to people through my speech. Not just saying empty words to fill the time , or making empty promises to please people. I strive to hold the relationship with myself  consciously, not to let myself down or anyone else down. To face relationships evening challenging ones with  love first over projected fears and defences that are provoked by circumstances and act neutrally, from my soul.

The Practice

One Minute Breath: Tune in with Ong Namo, Guru Dev Namo 3-5x. Sit with a straight spine. Inhale deeply for 20 seconds, hold for 20 seconds, exhale for 20 seconds. You may start with 10 seconds and build up.  Even if you do this for 3 mins it can really get you back in touch with the true, authentic self.

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This week’s classes:

Mon 18 Sept 6.15-7.30pm     Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 19  Sept 9.30-10.30am Kundalini Yoga @ Om Shambala, 143 Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 19 Sept 3.30-4.30pm   Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickell Rd, Col 8

Tues 19 Sept 6-7pm           Kundalini Meditation@ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Wed 20 Sept 5.00- 7.30am  Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 20 Sept 3-3.45pm         Radiant Kids Yoga@ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Wed 20  Sept 7.15-8.15pm    Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Thurs 21 Sept 3.00-4.00pm Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Sunday 24 Sept 5-7.30am    Sadhana @ Om Shambala, 143 Fife Rd, Col 5 (FREE)

Sunday 24 Sept 10-11am      Kundalini Yoga@ Sat Sangat Shala, Negambo

Sunday 24 Sept 6-7.30pm  Gong Bath@ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7