The Negative Mind, Perfectionsim & Procrastination – Kundalini Yoga 6.15-7.30pm Mon 12 Feb 2018

perfectThe Negative Mind, Perfectionism and Procrastination

Last week we explored our applied intelligence. An aspect of applied intelligence is being able to see which of our 3 functional minds are dominant at any one time. Let’s look at the strongest of our functional minds, the negative mind and look its sisters, perfectionism and procrastination.

The negative mind is all about protecting us and setting boundaries. Let’s look especially at that protective quality that leads to tendencies of perfectionism. Perfectionism is that little nagging feeling that nothing is good enough as it is. There are always improvements to make, whether the focus is on people, the food you received at a restaurant or yourself. Let us not get confused, perfectionism is not the desire for success, in fact it is the fear of failure and our negative minds protective quality that drives our perfectionist tendencies. Perfection in reality is impossible and an abstraction. There is a difference between striving for something or excellence and demanding perfection.

This need for wanting to be perfect is transmitted to us subtly. By seeing “perfect” bodies or lives, carved and presented to us via different marketing techniques and channels (such as social media), those “images of perfection” are being implemented in our minds subconsciously. Thus, people who cannot achieve those images that their minds are fixated on tend to lose self-esteem and have their creative minds stifled. We are talking about perfectionism here, and it is one of the major reasons for the feelings of dissatisfaction especially when you look in the mirror.  Getting over perfectionism and unloading the unnecessary burden of self-judgement can be fought by channelling those emotions that take over you with forgiveness and letting go. Kundalini Yoga and meditation are two very effective ways that can help you lose the “perfectionist syndrome”.

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Procrastination and perfectionism are closely linked to one another. Procrastination is the negative minds mask of not facing criticism or being wrong, as well as lack of self confidence. You will not start anything new or take a chance because of fear of failure. I remember this feeling when I first started teaching Kundalini Yoga, I did not think my asana practice was good enough, or my language ( I was teaching in Spanish), I had so many reasons not to teach.   But actually teaching, making mistakes and being a bad teacher has taught me so much. I remember my teacher Sunder Singh saying to be a really good teacher; you needed to be a bad teacher first. I thought he was insulting me instead of assisting me, but that is how the negative mind reacts to any threats. We must learn to recognise this and counter it with our applied intelligence, i.e. watching but not becoming attached to those negative thought processes.

No one is perfect and no matter how we think others may have a perfect life no one actually attains this state. This week make an effort not to be so harsh on yourself, know your worth, learn by your mistakes and respect yourself no matter how bad or good you feel. Sat nam x raymond.fiona@gmail.com   0778011984 www.sanasuma.co.uk www.3ho.org

This week’s classes:

Mon 12 Feb 6.15-7.30pm    Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 13 Feb 9.45-10.45am  Kundalini Yoga @ Om Shambala, 143 Fife Rd, Col 5

Tues 13 Feb 3.30-4.30pm Special Needs Kids Class@ Reach Beyond, Tickell Rd, Col 8

Tues 13 Feb 6-7.15pm        Kundalini Yoga Class with Shauangh@ 145/5 Fife Rd, Col 5

Wed 14 Feb 5.00- 7.30am  Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 14 Feb 3.30-4.15am    Kids Yoga Class @ The Om Space, Colombo 5

Wed 14 Feb 6.45-8pm         Kundalini Yoga@ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5

Thurs 15 Feb 11 – 1pm      Special Needs Kids and Teachers Class@ Reach Beyond

Thurs 15 Feb 3-4pm               Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

 

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Eliminate your Imaged Disabilities – Kundalini Yoga and meditation all week

When you wake up in the morning or last thing before you go to bed, what are the quality of your thoughts? Tonight, and tomorrow morning write your thoughts down, do not edit the thought stream, just write down what you mind is chewing over.

Most of the time our thought process is negative, complaining, worrying. We did not get enough sleep or good quality sleep, our partner snored, or is on their iPad first thing in the morning. We do not feel we are getting enough love, prosperity, attention from our family and friends. It can be an endless list. We have touched on this subject before, when uncontrolled our negative, protective mind tends to take over the helm. It is the negative  mind that dominates when we are unconscious and living automatically, as it is the first, strongest and automatic mind. These perceived or imaged disabilities can lead us to believe our lives are blighted or we are unlucky. Other people have it easier. These sentiments can turn into resentment and hate. The world order appears to be in this state at present. What we need to realise is that, this mental processing is draining us. The mind makes us feel guilty if we spend time enjoying ourselves or taking care of our needs. The mind is so busy judging the world around us and others that unknowingly it turns this same critical eye inwards and we always come up short or lacking.

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Yogi Bhajan said, “Every disability is imaged, every achievement is an experience”. Can we try and practice that? No blame nor claim. No problem, literally as we are equal to every challenge we are faced with.

This week’s challenge is to spend 24 hours without having one negative thought or one negative word. If you start to think or say anything negative you start the 24 hours again. Let’s train our negative mind to be our servant and not our master. To have happier, compassionate and more flourishing life.

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Mon 28 November 6.15-7.30pm   Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 29 November 6-7pm             Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 30 November 4.45- 7am        Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE CLASS)

Wed 30 November 7.15-8.15pm  Kundalini Yoga @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road Col 5

Fri   2nd December 6.30-7.30pm   Community Class (by Donation) @ the Om Space, 185/9

Sat 3rd December 5-7.30am  Sadhana @the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road (FREE CLASS)

Sat 3rd December 9.30-10.30am Hatha General @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road Col 5

Sat 3rd December 6-7.30pm Gong Bath Healing @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road Col 5

Sun 4th December 10-11am       Hatha General @ the Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road Col 5