Deep listening and Inner Anger
Having enjoyed a wonderful 10 days in Ulpotha on Retreat, we are back this week examining inner anger and the solution to this. I will write a separate blog on the Retreat later.
When we harbour anger, resentment consciously or subconsciously it blocks our ability to listen. Whether the anger is a quiet grinding or our teeth, passive aggressive or seething rage, the mind reacts with a hidden agenda which you may not be conscious of. It narrows our perspective, emotional focus and we miss the opportunity presented to us. We have effectively decided not to listen. When we get angry we polarize the world, all is black and white, right and wrong, good and bad. To reach this deep anger we need to clear the blocks in the body and mind to allow everything which is in the present moment and the other person’s world into our own.
DEEP LISTENING
Weakness in listening:
- The normal condition of our mind, environment and culture is not to fully listen.
- When someone is talking to you listen to 6% of the total conversation.
- You listen to the cues not the words.
- You take certain important cues that concern you emotionally or mentally and fill in the blanks.
- You only become alert at these times, you are not worried about the complete conversation.
- 50% of the time you pretend you are hearing and listening.
- You are only interested in the total conversation that you started out to project to the other person.
- If you cannot accept the above you are not listening.
Deep listening involves:
Listening with ears, mind and heart.
Remaining fully present, conscious and alert.
Being deeply relaxed and centred. Understanding your own agenda before communicating. THIS TAKES LOTS OF PRACTICE.
Benefits of Deep listening Sunni – An act of applied consciousness
What does this mean? Each word creates our world, each word we hear informs and connects us to this world. Deep listening is like a bat’s sonar, it helps us to sense the shape and momentum of the present moment. Deep listening allows us to be one step ahead of the moment. It connects us to our buddhi mind and universal knowledge. If we cultivate this tool of deep listening, we creates a deep respect in the other person which establishes a COMMON NOTION.
When you cannot hear yourself (your mental and outer voice) or listen to the other person there will not be mutual understanding and that is why relationships go wrong in life.
- The homework this week is to notice what times of the day you become annoyed and do not listen to the other, instead listen to your mind? Where are you? What happened before you got angry. What are your stress levels? Note them down in your journal.
See you all next week Sat nam x
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