Be your own Best Friend – 6-7.30pm Kundalini Yoga, Mon 28 Mar @ Prana Lounge

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Become your own BEST FRIEND

Ok this sounds kind of crazy but the relationship with yourself is your most important relationship. When you become your own best friend you have lost your worst critic.

Understand yourself

Best friends are able to predict each other’s moods because they know each other so well. As your own best friend, you can do the same. The more you invest in getting to know yourself, the better you will be able to deal with anything that life throws your way. The best way to connect with your inner self is through meditation. Commit to a daily meditation practice.

Forgiveness

In order to be our own best friend, we need to learn to love ourselves unconditionally.  When your friends talk about you behind your back it is generally a lack of courage as opposed to being a false friend. If this happens to you, you need to show compassion and forgiveness ie give forth and move on from the incident to get the relationship back on track. This also applies to you. Self forgiveness is vital in order to maintain the best relationship you can have with your dualisitic self.

Feel great about yourself

You may feel that this is being full of yourself, like the Loreal advert “Because I am worth it”, myfriend always pointed this advert out as the utlimate in selfishness. But being full of yourself is not necessarily a bad thing. You can use it to feel so full and overflowing with wellness that you just want to share this energy in service of others or you can use it to inflate your ego and boast. This week I had the feeling of feeling so good about myself, loving myself that I just felt overflowing with love and energy which I was able to use in my meditations to heal family members and just be a kinder person. Having the energy to be of service to others is the healthiest investment you can make. Not only on a emotional level but also on a physical level as it boosts our immune system.

Be honest with yourself

The older you get, the easier it is to get set in your ways. Being your own best friend means staying honest with yourself. Don’t be the kind of friend who sugarcoats the truth. Use your quiet time or meditation to enquire about what happened during the day, where you reacted or when you caught yourself during or prior to reacting. Journaling is a great way to keep up the process of self-enquiry.

Welcome yourself and your best friend, acknowledge this relationship and turn all other relationships into ones of service.

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 This week’s classes:

Mon 28 Mar 6-7.30pm   Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 29 Mar 6-7pm           Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 30 Mar 4.45- 7am     Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 30 Mar 3-3.45pm       Kids Yoga @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 30 Mar 7.15-8.15pm   Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Fri   1 April 6.30-7.30pm   Community Class – BY DONATION ALL WELCOME, The Om Space

Sat 2 April 5-7.30pm      Sadhana @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5 (FREE)

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Love yourself PASSIONATELY – Kundalini Yoga 6-7.30pm Mon 14 Mar @ Prana Lounge

kidLet’s start loving ourselves passionately, poetically, deliciously!  Learn to love yourself with the kind of passion that you’ve dreamed of receiving from another person.  Leave yourself love notes on the bathroom mirror or if that seems too much, spend time every day hugging yourself and telling yourself how much, ‘I love you Fiona, your amazing.’ At the end of my classes I make sure everyone gives themselves a hug and sometimes a kiss. In my kid’s class we always end with looking into each other’s eyes and saying, ‘I am amazing and so are you.’ Start practicing it with your loved ones.

A scene from the movie “What the Bleep!” shows Marleen Matlin drawing hearts on herself and it changes something within her. Draw hearts when you doodle and write your name inside the heart. Write yourself a love poem, here is my spontaneous example I wrote in 15 seconds from my heart.

Oh Fiona you are so lovely,

Only you can fill the hole inside me,

Keep radiating light and love,

Oh my love Fiona, you are so bright.

Use your breath to feel the love inside. Inhale deeply as if you are inhaling the smell of your lover, (you) and exhale gratitude. Do this at least 3 times. Make this a practice a few breaths a day.

Decide to never again to mentally or out aloud call yourself FAT, or UGLY.  Or NOT GOOD ENOUGH.  Or STUPID.  Or whatever it is.  We’ve all got our words.  Some of them were programmed in childhood, and others we’ve picked up as we’ve gone along in life.  But whatever word you are using to stop yourself from living the life of your dreams needs to STOP. Here’s a trick to change your self-talk.  Put a rubber band around your wrist.  Wear it for 40 days.  Each time you catch yourself saying the ‘trigger word’ (“Gosh, I look so FAT in these white yoga pants,” for example) snap the rubber band!  It creates a light shock and trains the mind to avoid that word, like a gentle aversion therapy.  Never use it to punish yourself for doing something, but to wake up out of the mental slumber that puts your bad self-talk on auto-pilot! Sat nam Fi x

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This week’s classes:

Mon 14 Mar 6-7.30pm   Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Place, Col 7

Tues 15 Mar 6-7pm          Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 16 Mar 4.45- 7am    Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 16 Mar 3-3.45pm     Kids Yoga @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 16 Mar 7.15-8.15pm   Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Fri   18 Mar 6.30-7.30pm   Community Class – BY DONATION ALL WELCOME, The Om Space

 

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What is your Value?

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We need to fill ourselves with value everyday, this can be done by chanting or singing from our heart feeling the joy and fullness there or by breathing the fragrance of love in to our hearts. If you do not do this on a regular basis you will feel a deep sense of emptiness which you will fill up with unconscious habits and patterns which make your external world more valuable than your inneral one. 

Self– esteem is the fragrance that emanates from the Self just as kindness, self-respect, self-love all originate from this place too.

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5 Ways To Gain Self Value

  1. Command the Mind

The mind tells us constantly what we are worth. Whenever you attempt to move forward in your life, it is the mind that sends the deluge of critical, judgmental and self-hating thoughts. You are not your thoughts.  Daily meditation is non-negotiable now in order to develop a relationship with your mind.  Commanding the mind is a full time job.  It is becoming a witness to your thoughts and refusing to react or act until you are clear.

  1. Trust Yourself

We all have an inner compass that guides us through time and space. However, we have been taught and trained not to trust it. When my teacher Shiv Charan told me about my inner compass, I simple could not believe it. I was always someone who did not trust myself and looked to others, teachers etc. to know better than myself. When you give other people power over yourself you are doubting your own value.   Only you can really know what is  best for yourself.   This does not mean you dismiss everyone elses opinions. You can listen neutrally to the opinion and see if it resonates with your heart. Truth is a frequency of energy that will resound with your Self or not. Your Mind is not your inner compass. Test this out when you listen to people. Do you feel YES and it feels right or NO which feels a bit off or wrong –like you suddenly are lopsided?

  1. Know yourself and value yourself

Can you really say you know yourself?  Chances are there are parts of you that you need to embrace. The only reason you don’t accept yourself is that you have written a self-concept of you that is not the truth. Most people want to be someone they’re not. Look at the magazine racks. They sell you how not to be you, to aspire to be someone else. You lower your self-value when you compare yourself to someone else.

Instead of comparing yourself, get to know yourself. Spend time alone and out of the conditioning field of other people so that you can really feel what it is to be YOU.

To start to know YOU, ask yourself questions and answer them in truth:

What uplifts your Spirit?

What opens your Heart?

  1. Embrace your Perfection

Your mind is always telling you are lacking in some way and you need to prove yourself.  The mind will tell you that you are not smart enough, attractive enough, successful enough–basically you are not good enough and you have no value. This can be happening at the unconscious level and perhaps this wound has been handed down through your ancestral lineage. This energy will drive you to make choices that are not correct for you in order to prove yourself.

Before any action, take time to question your motivation. Ask yourself, “Why do I want to do this? Am I trying to prove myself to someone? Prove that I am a good friend, partner, worker, loyal? Am I feeling worthless right now and trying to escape from these painful feelings?” The Truth is that you are Perfect and Whole. Focus on feeling full in your heart and this will allow you to embrace your imperfections as perfections.

  1. Let Go of the Past

People can recount all the horrible things that have happened to them in their past and all the people who are responsible for their low self-esteem. The ego’s version of letting go of the past is seeking some kind of vengeance or payback before moving on. Or diminishing the pain, “It wasn’t that bad, my friend had it worse.”  To truly let go of the past, you have to go into the dark recesses of the subconscious mind and at the cellular level. This means rolling up your sleeves and feeling all the pain that is associated with these memories and let go of these feelings.

Cross left under right arm on your shoulders, bow your head to your heart, take the value from external things to your heart and chant , “Gobinda, Gobinda Hari Hari chant for 11 mins. Translates to sustainer and supporter of all.

This week’s classes:

Mon 18 Jan 6-7.30pm     Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Pl, Col 7

Tues 19 Jan 6-7pm          Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 20 Jan 4.45- 7am    Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 20 Jan 3-3.45pm     Kids Yoga @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 20 Jan 7.15-8.15pm   Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road

Sat   23 Jan 10.30-4.30pm Yoga and Art Workshop with Serena and me, The Om Space

Sun 24 5.30-6.30pm          Gong Healing @ Prana Lounge

Supewomen Syndrome?

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For me Superwomen Syndrome seems to come out in the run up to Christmas when I host my family, it is the busiest time work wise and added to that this year we had a Level 2 Retreat for 6 days, with students flying in from Asia and me having to teach.

When I read an article on uber females, hardworking, health obsessed, they want to have it all and do it all, relentless in their drive to be over achievers and prove their worth. I realised that Kundalini Yoga is a balm for this new psychological monster.

Have you ever felt that your check list was taking over your life? One girl described her life as setting the clock forward so she gained an extra 11 mins on everyone. She would wake up at 6.11am, do 30 mins of exercise, make a two course breakfast, fruit salad and chia porridge, read the paper and listen to radio 4 whilst eating, checking off health, fitness and current affaires on her list. Work hard but also make a point to be kind to people look after her nephews once a week, ticking of responsible and supportive boxes. I am not critising this girl but asking us to question ourselves why we do not feel enough as we are?

 PRACTICAL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF?

  • Are you living this life or existing within a self-inflicted regime?
  • Whose approval are you seeking?
  • If you stopped your check lists for one day, what do you think would happen?
  • When did you start to feel you needed to achieve in order to feel worthy?
  • Do I feel uneasy when not doing something worthy? But for every good decision there is always a better one, this bombardment of choice puts us under great pressure.
  • When can I give myself time out from my regime?
  • Is my regime a container which holds my life together?
  • Do I depend on my external world for myself of worth?
  • What practice can I start, positive affirmation etc. to find internal security.

 

 We need to move away from putting our security into activities and achievements and move them into our internal self. When doing all your good activities do them mindfully, not just to fill time or automatically by route. Spend time everyday feeling how good it feels to be you inside your body. This can only come through physical awareness. Do not seek out approval from the outside world, i.e. posting all your achievements or things you are doing on social media. Keep a few things private achievements just for you, feel good about them even if not one else knows. Practice this kriya for self-love. I think why everyone loved the book/film Bridget Jone’s Diary is because the hero Darcy loves her just the way she is. When you start really accepting yourself as you are from an internal sense of wellbeing you realise you are better than you ever imaged you could be.

Posture: Sit in Easy Pose with a straight spine and hold your right palm six to nine inches above the top centre of your head. The right palm faces down, blessing you. This self-blessing corrects the aura. The left elbow is bent with the upper arm near the rib cage. The forearm and hand point upward. The left palm faces forward and blesses the world.

Eyes: The eyes are closed and focus at the lunar centre in the middle of the chin.

Breath: Breathe long, slow, and deep with a feeling of self-affection. Try to bring the breath to one breath per minute: Inhale for 20 seconds, hold for 20 seconds, exhale for 20 seconds.[1]

Time: Continue for 11 minutes. Then inhale deeply and move slowly and directly into position for Exercise 2.

This exercise will benefit everything between the neck and navel. It will give strength to the heart and will open up the heart centre.

Posture: Extend your arms straight out in front, parallel to the ground, palms facing down. Stretch out to your maximum.

Eyes: The eyes are closed and focused at the lunar center in the center of the chin.

Breath: The breath is long, slow, and deep.

Time: Continue for 3 minutes. Then inhale deeply and move slowly and directly into position for Exercise 3.

Part 3

Posture: Stretch your arms straight up with the palms facing forward. There is no bend in the elbows.

Eyes: The eyes are closed and focused at the lunar center.

Breath: The breath continues to be long, slow, and deep.

Time: Continue for 3minutes.To finish: Inhale, hold your breath for 10 seconds while you stretch your arms upward (try to stretch so much that your buttocks are lifted) and tighten all the muscles of your body. Exhale. Repeat this sequence two more times. This set can be found in Self-Knowledge

This week’s classes:

Mon 11 Jan 6-7.30pm    Kundalini Yoga @ Prana Lounge, 60 Horton Pl, Col 7

Tues 12 Jan 6-7pm         Meditation @ The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road, Col 5

Wed 13 Jan 4.45- 7am    Sadhana @ 9 Greenlands Lane, Col 5 (FREE)

Wed 13 Jan 7.15-8.15pm Kundalini Yoga@The Om Space, 185/9 Havelock Road